In order to start a journey you have to figure out where you are. I am a huge proponent of writing things down. We access a different part of our brain when we write out our thoughts and gain a new perspective of what is going on in our lives. It is also difficult to lie to myself when I know that I am the one that placed the thoughts on the page. In other words, writing grounds me in truth and discovering the truth gives me a solid map-point to journey from.
My clients often have various reasons why writing won't work for them...until they actually try it. Most of the tension in our lives comes from carrying thoughts about things that either haven't happened or can't be changed. I love seeing the physical change that happens in their bodies when they can release their thoughts on the page.
I got into the habit of writing in a journal when I got sober 29 years ago. My brain did not process truth easily...it had a default setting stuck on fantasy that was a defense mechanism that served me well...until it almost killed me. The truth of how I was living my life had become too painful to look at and I didn't have the tools to face it alone. Writing opened me up and gave me some momentum toward change. (Just a note here: embarking on a journey of self-discovery for some of us requires help from a counselor, coach, a trusted friend or spiritual fellowship in order to move away from the things that keep us stuck).
I use my journal with meditation and prayer in order to access a deeper knowledge and understanding of my relationship to the world. If I know that my future is in my own hands, it empowers me to look for ways to begin to change. Seeing the words and feelings on the page opens up possibilities and choices I didn't have when I am not willing to look. One starter I use when I know I want something different than what I currently have is
"I am curious to know what _______________ would feel like"
How willing are you to to plan your journey to Happiness?
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