During this politically charged time in our lives, I have often caught myself, just prior to posting or sharing an opinion on social media, and asked myself “how important is this?” How important is this to what I am trying to achieve today? To my happiness or success and that of others? As a public figure (and social media assures that we all are) it matters to me what kind of image I project. The “pause button” is part of my makeup, and for this recovered “rageaholic” that was a necessary add-on to the package. Though it took many years of self-discovery, screw-ups, and difficult challenges – I no longer throw fits, blame, and get angry for the sake of winning an argument. Nothing like seeing yourself in the behavior of a discouraging presidential candidate to ignite wounds and defensive behavior. It’s amusing to me to observe this in others now that I don’t have to protect this once cherished super-power – judgement. In the book “A Course in Miracles” judgement is considered an attack on MYSELF AND others. If I am judging you, it is because I find something lacking in me.
I would guess that the only folks who don’t think there is something broken in our system are the ones who fight to keep it that way. The finger-pointing, back biting, and underhanded tactics that seem to permeate our political systems have been going on since the beginning of time. History repeats itself whether it is on the marble steps of an ancient Greek pyramid or the steps of the Nation’s Capital. Everyone is trying to protect what they have, believe in, or aspire to accomplish. However, my political views aren’t nearly as important as what I do in my own backyard or how much integrity I practice. Who I am every day has more impact on my life than anything in the news. My judgement about you has never made me feel good about myself – and that goes for my opinions on lots of other things as well. The things that upset me the most are often those things I have the least information about or those things I am trying to keep secret. To put myself in check, these are some of the things I ask myself:
Each of us can be mindful of our own behaviors and feelings at any given time we chose. All it takes is a pause and an honest look at what we are doing, saying, and being in the world. It can be as small as what we say to our partner or child the moment we wake up. Our first thoughts in the morning or our last thoughts at night. Asking ourselves “what am I doing for others today”, or “what can I do better tomorrow” can also help us be mindful of how we interact with others. An honest look at ourselves on paper in the form of an inventory, a journal or a letter to God, is a cathartic learning tool for self-discovery that can help us see how everything we do IS important.
How important is this to your piece of mind, to your peace?
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