We teach others how to treat us.
No matter where we go we leave the energetic trail of our moods along the way. The energy we show up with carries a message to others…whether or not we realize it. The message may be intentional or unconscious – but we are always projecting it into the universe. Whether the lesson lands in the lap of the checker at the grocery store, our children, or our peers at work, we teach others how to treat us, even when that is not our intention. Witnesses learn from us everywhere, and if someone is in a vulnerable place, our demeanor, extended forward, has the power to lift up or destroy. Because we effect one another so easily, we have a responsibility to take the lead in any encounter.
How do you do that if you are in a crappy place though? If the first thing you focus on is how much you regret, how do you get past that? And why does it matter what others think anyway? Taking responsibility for our thoughts is the first step and that takes waking up to what we are putting out there in front of us. Finding a way to shift from grouchy to grateful has its perks. When we do, our energy becomes uplifting and so does the message we hear and project.
Some of us are addicted to negative and catastrophic thinking. If your life has been one of challenge and strife, if you are going through something that is painful, or overcoming some other trauma, it is difficult to feel like moving out of it. Yes misery does seem to love company – we just don’t realize sometimes how much we invite into our world by our own thoughts. If we are constantly talking about our troubles to others, we only feed the beast. What can we do to switch from thinking that hurts us to thinking that teaches us?
Here are some ways you can begin to take back your own energy and switch to more positive behaviors:
Everyone has their own path to walk in this life, things to overcome, to greet gratefully or regretfully, and to learn. We have the choice each day to continue on like we have been living or we can choose to grow. Trying on a new way of thinking changes our perspective and fuels a desire for better things.
What will you learn today?
Every blog I share comes from the heart and has a challenge or a question within it to help others explore new ways of thinking. I hope that as you read the blogs you would consider starting conversation by commenting. We can learn so much together!