This is happiness. When your soul is so filled up that you can’t keep it to yourself. When even the tiniest things bring on joy. Being so grateful for something that you know you can give your life over to it even if only for a moment.
If you are struggling to think of something, tell me why. I want to know. I want to help. I want to create safe space so that you can explore and discover what brings you joy.
Please tell me.
Here are possible ways to bring yourself closer to happiness.
- Engagement – How engaged are you in the life you have been blessed with? What are you doing to make the world a better place? What kinds of things can you do to help a cause, a family, to contribute or create something? Plant, sing, paint, build, write…find something that gives you joy. Being fully engaged in a task takes you out of the level of thought and connects you with your purpose. New experiences create new neural pathways and improve your brain and your mood. Finding ways to help others will expand your world, open up choices, and can connect you in amazing and fulfilling ways. Something as simple as cleaning out a closet and finding a place to donate the items that serves others jazzes me up and makes me feel great. I love helping others so much I became a coach so I could do it full time! Find something with which you can engage yourself deeply.
- Energy – How much energy do you have when you wake up in the morning? If you are struggling from the moment you open your eyes, what can you do to help yourself wake up differently? Often how we end the day sets us up for what we feel the next morning. Take a look at what your evening ritual looks like. What are you reading, eating, and watching on television? I have been doing a short yoga routine before lying down at night and have found I fall asleep faster and sleep much better. I try to put up the electronics at least an hour before retiring so that my brain has an opportunity to quiet down before I lie down. In the mornings, I take stock of what I feel a deep sense of gratitude for. Exercise and healthy eating habits increase energy. Hang out with people who lift you up and do things that make you feel good about yourself. Smile often and see how it feels. Familiarize yourself with your own energy. Honor yourself.
- Empathy – Learning to understand and see the feelings of others through their eyes is where communication begins. Being fully present in conversation creates trust and emotional engagement and helps to understand the way others see the world. Service to others helps us connect in ways that can foster empathy for another. It isn’t enough to write a check, I need to somehow be in the trenches. For me it is working with lots of women in recovery trying to put their lives back together and knowing that I don’t ever have to go back to that life. What have you learned or overcome you can share with another? What are you so grateful for that you can share it with someone else who hasn’t experienced the having or doing of the thing? Be present and bring empathy into your life.
- Enlightenment – Seeking a deeper understanding of the world we cannot see opens up a path from our head to our hearts. The more I learn the deeper I feel love and the more capacity I develop for receiving love. Meditation, journaling, yoga, and prayer are a regular part of my life. Asking myself the hard questions and seeking answers from those wiser than me became the key to living a life of enlightenment. Be still, seek understanding and connection. It is in letting the dust settle that I see the sunshine. Be brave. You have it within you.
- Ease – Find ways to create ease in your life. What gives you ease and comfort? Holding your child? Sitting on the porch in the warm spring breeze with your favorite cup of tea? Going on a run? Everything you do to honor yourself and others will ease your spirit. I honor the signals my body sends to me by eating right, moving more often, taking care of myself physically and mentally. Ease means to relax and to be at peace with yourself and others. Find your inner compass by sitting quietly and letting yourself be you. Accept all that you are at this moment, all that is, and know that there is a bigger plan here. Be at ease.
No one can make you happy. Be brave enough to look within yourself for the things that will introduce you to happiness. Doing the things that are in line with your heart will reveal to you what will make you happy. This is an inside job of extreme importance to your health and to the quality of your relationships and your future.
How willing are you to look?