Let me ask you an important question. Why does it matter how you feel?
What are the first thoughts you think as the universe awakens you from your slumber? Did you know that your first thoughts guide the direction and energy of your day? So if that is true, what is going to be different tomorrow?
Every thought leads to a feeling, and every feeling leads to an action. If your first thought in the morning is something negative, then it will cause you to feel something, well – NEGATIVE. Worrying about something you have no control over, sets you up for fear. Then fear causes you to behave in ways that you believe will protect you from something THAT HAS NOT HAPPENED. It is the same for anything predictive that comes to mind. If you wake up with a mild headache thinking “Oh no, a full blown migraine is on the way”, then of course your next actions are going to be to prevent or protect yourself (unless you enjoy migraines). This action kicks in the stress hormones in your body that flood you with fight or flight chemicals and shut down other physical processes so everything is focused on the perceived DANGER. Now for the rest of the day you will be on guard. One of the major problems with this is that you actually may end up making the headache worse!
What can you do instead? If thoughts provoke feelings and feelings lead to actions, you can start with thinking about how you want to feel instead. What is a more productive and healthy feeling for you? This doesn’t mean you discount the problem or illness at hand, it just means you begin to look at it in a more loving way. So ask yourself instead what you can do to feel better, look better, or to behave differently.
Here are some examples:
From the OLD WAY OF THINKING to a NEW WAY OF THINKING
I feel like crap! ----- What can I do for myself to feel better?
I can already tell this day isn’t going to go well!-----------What are 3 good things about this day?
Oh no! It's already morning???----------This is going to be a great day!
If he/she says one more ugly thing to me…---------I wonder what he/she is struggling with.
How we feel has everything to do with how we think. Write your thoughts down first thing in the morning and see how your mind works. If what you see on the page doesn’t serve your good, then change it up and see if you can find a better feeling by changing your perspective. The process of attracting better things in your life, starts with having better thoughts. When you feel better, your actions will serve you and others in more positive ways. At the end of the day, ask yourself “what is better?” and write that down. Try this for a couple of weeks and see if it doesn’t start changing the way you feel. Your body AND mind will be happier for it!
Nothing is easy until the challenge has been overcome. You have thought those thoughts all your life and it will take time to change. I promise you it will be worth it if you will try. When you are working toward improving your perspective you will empower yourself to do many things you have been wanting to accomplish. Then you will think new thoughts, feel new feelings, and take new actions. Happiness is what really matters. When you are happy everything begins to work and the struggle subsides.
What matters to you today?
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